How to Find Your Purpose

March 21, 2016

flatbrimhatOver this past weekend I received a text from my father, who shared with me some of his most recent personal reflections that really got me thinking. He opened up about how he was married to his first wife at my age and that at twenty-three years old, he had no idea who he was, who he wanted to become, or what he wanted to wanted to achieve in life. What he shared with me provoked me to reflect at my own personal journey and question how far I’ve come in my own self-discovery. Questioning our purpose doesn’t begin and end with our early twenties, it’s a subject that weaves in and out of consciousness throughout our entire lives. It’s an innate part of being human.

I’d like to take a moment and share with you three things you can do right this very moment to help you start to discover your own unique purpose in life.  Take a deep breath in and out. Just relax. Finding your purpose does not demand for that much effort on your part. More often than not, purpose is revealed to people when they are open, willing, and able. So rather than be stressing and wishing for that wonderful “a-ha moment,” just relax and give yourself some credit for wanting to make the first step in the right direction.

frenchchicoutfitturtleneck1. Read Books

There is no better way to start this process of finding your purpose, then with reading good, helpful books. The books you read right now can help you reflect on your life and create a vision for what you truly want. Taking this time to reflect can help you assess what intentions and goals you have for yourself, and in turn help to define your purpose. If you have a specific industry in mind that is linked with your purpose, try reading biographies of successful people in that field. Their challenges and triumphs will also help you keep in mind that even if you know your purpose, the journey will not be an easy one. Even purpose-filled lives and careers are filled with unexpected hardships, twists, turns, highs, and lows.

Two personal favorites of mine are The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho and A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson.

rippedblackjeans2. Help other people.

The common theme that almost all purposes share is the desire to help other people. What do you genuinely love to do that also helps other people? It doesn’t have to be your exact purpose, but by taking the focus off of yourself and investing it in another person’s needs, you might just find that those actions lead you to your specific purpose in some unforeseen way. Plus, when your energy is shifted to another person you are then able to expand your heart and mind. You’ll learn to think beyond yourself and see the bigger picture. You’ll learn that the life we’ve been given is a gift, and we must make the most of it.

mustardturtlenecknaturalmakeup3. Discover your strengths.

By studying your own strengths, you can first learn how to improve upon them in your current life roles, and even transition these abilities into a career or purpose that strikes to the core of what you are meant to do. The core of any purpose has to do with sharing love and helping other people improve their lives in some meaningful way that we are uniquely capable of through our talents and practice. If you’d like to get a bit more specific to what your unique contribution to the world could be, consider asking your friends and family about your unique talents.


I truly hope this post was helpful to you in some way. It was a topic I’ve been thinking a great deal of, and weighed heavy on my heart tonight. Please share any of your thoughts in the comment section.

Outfit Ingredients:

Sweater- Loft

Jeans- American Eagle

Flats- Old Navy

Hat- Free People

Bracelet- Courtesy of M Pope & Co Fine Jewelers




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