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The Dress: Part Two (aka Combating Imposter Syndrome)

October 20, 2016

lacma6You are exactly where you are supposed to be.

This thought entered my mind and brought an instant smile to my face. It’s a thought that I want to share with you today. In a society where we are constantly competing and racing to prove our worth, we often tend to beat ourselves up over not feeling accomplished enough. We look at what our peers are achieving and we feel small and somehow less competent or worthy.impostersyndromeWe hear a tiny voice within us that says:

“Are you sure you’re ready?” What gives YOU the right to try this?”
“You’ll be so embarrassed when you fail.”
“Don’t even bother.”

That little voice whispering that you are not fit to succeed or even try is indicative of something called “impostor syndrome,” a phrase coined in the late 1970s by two psychologists. It refers to high-achievers who experience an unrelenting fear of being exposed as “frauds” to their peers and struggle with intense feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. Though impostor syndrome is commonly attributed to women, it actually affects almost everyone and results in self-imposed limits marked by a sensation of unworthiness.impostersyndrome1In the first part of this post, I described the significance of this dress. I shared how prior to moving to Los Angeles how I felt anxious about the transition to a new environment, and at some level was fearful over how others would perceive me. Today I want to discuss the larger topic of imposter syndrome and give you advice that I wish I had been given on ways to ditch feelings of unworthiness once and for all.lacma4 lacma5lacma3Stop comparing yourself to others. There is a distinct difference between giving your best and being the best. Likewise, there’s a distinct difference between trying to better yourself and being better than everyone else.  The true secret to overcoming Imposter Syndrome is self-acceptance:  you don’t have to attain perfection to be worthy of the success you’ve achieved. In no way does this mean that you are lowering the bar. No, it’s about resetting it to a realistic standard that doesn’t leave you forever striving and feeling inadequate. Remember you do not have to attain perfection to share something with the world that enriches people’s lives in some way.impostersyndromelacmaOwn your success. You didn’t get to where you are by chance. Just as we must take responsibility for our failures in life, we must also take responsibility for our successes. Minimizing our successes serves no one. So if you sometimes feel undeserving of your success, try writing a list of all the key things you’ve accomplished over the last 5 years.lacma2Focus on the value you bring, not on attaining perfection. One of my dearest mentors would often remind me this past year that “perfect is the enemy of the good.” Meaning that one might never complete a task if one has decided not to stop until it is perfect. It’s in the same way that people may never even begin an important task because they feel reaching perfection is too hard.

 Also by being acutely aware of how hard we’re working to keep our head above water and fulfill expectations, we often mistakenly assume others are getting by more effortlessly. The reality is that many people are stretched and struggling just like you. Perhaps not in the same way, but in their own way, with their own unique set of challenges, insecurities, and internal struggles.lacma



The Dress: Part One

October 12, 2016

dress4This past Saturday marked my first full month living in Los Angeles. It’s been such an incredible journey so far. I feel like a houseplant that was just put in direct sunlight for the first time ever and is blooming like never before.dress8dress1I have a vivid memory from a couple months back that I feel compelled to share. At that point, I was finishing up my Master’s degree while working full-time and preparing mentally for the possibility of moving to LA. I had just had a phone interview with a famous lifestyle brand that I felt went well, but after the conversation was left feeling so anxious, not because of the fear of not getting the position like you would think, but actually I was anxious over what it would mean if I was to get the position. Beyond the obvious fear of starting my post-college life and all that that would mean, I was truly anxious about the very idea of what I was going to wear to work if I was hired… Yes, you read that right.dress5Everyone feels the pressure to look and act a certain way, but I’ve found that working in the fashion industry and especially being an image consultant, that I’ve felt both an extreme internal and external pressure to look beautiful. I found myself thinking over and over again at how my co-workers would most likely perceive me based on my clothing and style. Would they think I was qualified to work with influencers? It boiled down to whether they thought I was worthy. How crazy is that?!dress7dress3The very dress I’m wearing in this post was the result of one of those panics- I had stopped at the mall after work at the end of summer to pick up pieces for my new fall wardrobe. Knowing I was going to be moving to LA I searched for clothing that seemed it would fit the description “California cool”. I was immediately drawn to this dresses’ major 90s vibes, but also to that I could picture how I could wear it several ways- perfect for the broke fashionista, who relies heavily on versatility.tattoodressAs an image consultant, I want our clients to not only feel good on the outside but more importantly on the inside. You are not a better person or somehow more qualified because you have more money to buy designer clothing or expensive makeup. For instance, this dress I’m wearing was only $20 and I feel great in it. I felt so great that when I wore it to work I didn’t even remember to think about if my co-workers would be impressed or not.

The reason I’m sharing this story with you is because I want you to know that you are not alone in your worry or self-doubt. People around you may look like they have their shit together, but everyone goes through moments of feeling unattractive, dumb, or worthless. I’ve learned that this is the ego or the part of the mind that believes it is separate from love. Take a moment to recognize that anything that isn’t love is an illusion. The truth is that the perfect you isn’t something you need to create- you already are- the perfect you is the love within you.kisskissdress6LOVE,


Life in the Raw

October 11, 2016

It is with great excitement that we introduce you to Cheryl Horton, a dear friend of ours, who owns her own cooking company called Life in the Raw. Late this past Summer, we met up with Cheryl in her kitchen to learn more about eating raw and also how to better maintain a healthy lifestyle. Food is one of the most important aspects of maintaining our health and it is vital that we nourish our bodies with the proper nutrients. Cheryl graciously showed us how it is possible to incorporate eating raw into our hectic lifestyles.

If we can do it, so can you! rawcherylCan you describe your business? Simply a grass roots business, working with one person at a time or in small groups. It’s about sharing ideas, health, and food nutrient information, and making the process of eating raw easy and doable. I strive to let people know that they are in control of their food and their health.

What do you have to say to people who are hesitant about eating raw? Typically people are hesitant due to a lack of information or preconceived notions. And for many the thought of fitting this into their lives and their family’s lives seems too much. I understand that! However, the benefits outweigh any time or effort put into eating in this health saving manner. I would say to them give me one day, one week, one month and I’ll show you how easy this is and how much better you will feel! Whether people add one raw meal a day to their lifestyles or go all the way like me, I promise they will see the difference in improved health, energy, skin, mental wellness and even weight loss.

cornchowder2 cornchowder

Creamy Corn Chowder Recipe

1.5 cups organic corn (fresh or frozen)

1 red bell pepper

1 large zucchini

1 heaping tsp garlic powder

1 heaping tsp onion powder

a dash of nutmeg

a dash of cayenne

sea salt and fresh cracked pepper to taste

1/2 cup water

1-2 avocado (diced)

handful cherry tomatoes

Directions: In a Vita-miz (or blender) add corn, water, red bell pepper, zucchini, salt, pepper, nutmeg, cayenne, onion, and garlic powder on high until creamy. Garnish with fresh avocado slices and cherry tomatoes. 

rawrecipeWhy did you go raw? I went raw to save my life. I know that sounds dramatic but I have been sick for many years! After dozens of diagnoses and many more scary possibilities I knew, I had to do something for myself. All the meds were making me sicker and killing my body from the inside out. My biggest discovery was Lyme Disease along with 3 tick borne co-infections. At the time of diagnosis, I was bedridden and could barely function. Today I am up and around and enjoying life with my family. I have a ways to go but I now know that this raw lifestyle will carry me forward for many years to come and from that I have been given the gift of sharing this information with others to help them heal themselves as well.rawsliderrawcornchowderWhat do you want people to know about eating raw? That eating raw is easy, simple and incredibly flavorful! That you can have simple everyday meals to elegant dinner parties – the possibilities are endless! Plus the desserts and snacks – well those alone are worth going raw!

How has eating raw benefited you? As I said before it has saved my life! it has given me the gift of knowledge about foods and the food industry. Knowing that healing is part of a full package of body, mind, and soul. That mother earth is more important than ever, roots, herbs, and plants are what will give us life. Eating raw has allowed my mind to be clear and free from constant chaos, combined with meditation and practicing a peaceful giving attitude my body now knows I truly do love it and it loves me back.lifeintherawrawcheesecake1 cheesecakeraw

Chocolate Cheesecake Recipe

For the crust:

2 cup raw pecans

2 tablespoons coconut oil

1/4 cup cocoa powder

1/4 cup pure maple syrup

1/2 teaspoon fine sea salt

For the filling:

2 cups raw cashews

1 cup peeled & diced zucchini

1/2 cup cocoa powder

1 tablespoon vanilla extract

1/4 teaspoon fine sea salt

1/4 cup coconut oil, melted

Directions: Prepare the crust by placing the pecans in a food processor and grind them into a fine meal. Add in the rest of the crust ingredients and process until well combined. Line the bottom of an 8-inch pan with plastic wrap or parchment paper, then press the crust evenly into the bottom of the pan. Place the pan in the freezer to set, while you prepare the filling. In a food processor, process the cashews until they are a fine powder. Add in the zucchini, cocoa powder, maple syrup, vanilla extract, melted coconut oil, and sea salt, and blend again until a smooth and creamy batter is formed. Pour the filling into the frozen pie crust and allow to set for 8 hours or overnight. 

cherylraw1rawcheesecake  cheesecakeAre you interested in learning more about maintaining a raw food lifestyle or are looking for catering services?

Cheryl can be reached at

Mastering the Art of Athleisure

September 24, 2016

athleisure2If you’re as guilty as I am of following supermodels’ every move on social media, then you’re probably familiar with the Athleisure inspired look. Leggings, crop top, bomber jacket, you know the drill. But some of you might also be wondering what in the world kind of word “athleisure” is.

If the latter is the case, don’t be scared by the “athletic” part of the word if you haven’t been to the gym in 6 months, and let’s embrace the “leisure” part of the word. This trend emerged sometime in the early 2000s and has recently become the go-to street look for models and fashion bloggers everywhere, and now it can be yours. The whole idea of Athleisure is basically getting dressed for a workout, without actually working out. Yes, you read that right. Although it’s the perfect outfit for days when you’re crammed with school or meetings and need to find a work appropriate outfit that you can later wear for a workout, there is no physical activity required to wear this. It is a minimalistic approach to dressing comfortably without sacrificing style.athleisure1 athleisure3Despite its simplicity and comfort, Athleisure is definitely not a cop-out; dirty sweatshirts and hole-y leggings will never be socially acceptable. A coworker once told me my style is “sporty chic” and as a someone who is half French I was extremely offended and thought “is she calling me lazy??”. I thought she meant that I don’t look put together, but after observing the Athleisure trend I would definitely take that as a compliment.

Lululemon’s founder Chip Wilson says “athleisure is dead”, but I’m going to have to strongly disagree with that. With supermodels taking over this trend, and brands such as Beyonce’s new line Ivy Park emerging, fashion is taking a huge turn. Even brands such as Nike and New Balance have picked up on the Athleisure trend by adding “Lifestyle” categories to their brand. Athleisure has generated too much attention and praise for it to just be a passing fad, and honestly, I see it more as a movement. As we move into this technology-driven era where everything is fast paced, what better trend to complement the on-the-go lifestyle. Athleisure allows you to move around comfortably while tackling your busy schedule. Wear this trend wherever you want and however you want, whether that be to the grocery store or to a 5am Spin class.athleisureAt this point you probably understand the concept of Athleisure but maybe still aren’t sure how to style it. Models out and about in matching bombers or carelessly leaving a boxing class wearing a sports bra on the street can be pretty intimidating. Don’t let Kendall Jenner and Gigi Hadid off put you with their confidence and ease they wear their clothes with. There is not one specific body type that works best for the Athleisure trend, it’s about comfort, not looking like a supermodel. Athleisure is about being comfortable, so if wearing a sports bra in the middle of New York City isn’t for you, opt for something else.

Outfit Ingredients

Leggings – Lululemon

White Shoes- Adidas

Black shoes – Nike

Sunglasses – Rayban

Long White shirt – Banana Republic

Tied up white shirt – Project Social T

Green bomber – Pins and Needles


Here are my staples, most of which you probably already have in your closet:

  • Leggings: invest in a good pair. Spending the extra money doesn’t just buy you a brand name, it can save you the embarrassment of unknowingly walking around in leggings covered with holes.
  • Sneakers: white sneakers have become a trend of their own, one I am a huge fan of, but make sure you take good preventative care. I made the sad, sad mistake of not buying fabric protectant and had to accept that the stains on my once-treasured Stan Smiths made them unwearable.
  • Your gym shoes: if they’re clean, I say wear them with some skinny jeans and a cropped jacket.
  • Bomber jackets: extremely flattering, even more comfortable, this trendy jacket pulls together virtually any outfit to make it sporty.
  • Slip-ons: those Vans you used to wear as an angsty middle-schooler are coming back into style. Plain colors are more versatile, but I’ve noticed a lot of Instagrammers such as Lauren Elizabeth rocking the checkered slip on Vans if patterns are your thing.
  • Ankle Jeans: the skinny jean is slowly evolving and its next move is the ankle crop. Something about the just-above-the-ankle cut has an elongating effect on the legs and adds a small touch to the look. Topshop has been following this flattering trend for some time now, and they also offer pant lengths in Petite and Tall sizes!
  • Baseball hats: you can find them online, on the street, or in your dad’s closet
  • Leather jacket: pleather or leather, if you throw this on over the outfit you plan on working out in later, it instantly makes it chic
  • Duffel bags: if you still have an old gym bag lying around, use it. I recently rediscovered an Adidas duffel bag that I used to pack my volleyball gear in and have been using it as a carry-on for travel or as a weekender bag.
  • Windbreakers and puffy jackets: these are not only good for chilly weather, but a sleek windbreaker can easily dress down



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