Recently when I was out dancing with my girlfriends a random guy came up to me and asked how is that a girl can pull off wearing bold colored lipstick (hint: I was wearing a YSL bright red). My response was simple. I smiled wide and told him, “ with confidence.”
As the years have gone by I’ve built up my self-esteem through my love of fashion and self-expression, as well as through my string of successes in both my career and schooling. However, that doesn’t mean that I’m always happy with myself. In fact in a lot of ways I’ve actually been very unhappy on a deeper level… More recently my moving back home to Maine with no job and living with my parents feels like several steps back from all that I’ve accomplished. I’ve been feeling a lot more anxious and depressed as a result.Although, self-worth is often used as a synonym for “self-esteem,” they actually have different meanings. Self-worth, in comparison to self-esteem, at its core should be less about measuring yourself based on external actions and more about valuing your inherent worth as a person. In other words, self-worth is about who you are, not about what you do.
A recent study at the University of Michigan found that college students who base their self-worth on external sources (including academic performance, appearance, and approval from others) reported more stress, anger, academic problems and relationship conflicts. They also had higher levels of alcohol and drug use, as well as more symptoms of eating disorders. The same study found that students who based their self-worth on internal sources, not only felt better, they also received higher grades and were less likely to use drugs and alcohol or to develop eating disorders. ( Source)
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“I do not want to be beautiful. I want to be contagious and radiant. I want to leave a mark on not only on the world but on souls. I want to have something to offer; something more than the superficial idea that my beauty is all that I have to give.” -unknown
WOW! Let that sink in…basing one’s self-worth on external factors is actually harmful to one’s mental health. We absolutely need to be having more conversations around self-worth and the role it plays in our society. Constantly comparing ourselves to others means to always be fighting a losing battle.
If you’re anything like me you may be wondering how you can be working on improving self-worth. No one says the road will be an easy one, but here is what I found:
Your past doesn’t matter. It’s done and over with! Use those experiences as learning blocks and go forward to your magnificent, abundant life. There are no benefits to staying in the past, pick up your thoughts and spring forward.
The Universe created you in its infinite wisdom. Therefore you cannot be anything other than worthy. The Universe brings things and does things for a bigger purpose. It’s no accident you’re the way you are, you are perfect!
Remove judgment from your heart and brain.
Because you said so. Do you know your mind doesn’t know the difference between a lie and the truth? Tell yourself that you are worthy enough times. Sooner or later its bound to catch up with you.
There is no distinction between worthy and unworthy in the eyes of the Universe.
I’d love to know what you think about this subject. Please leave your thoughts in the comment section!