Adapting to Change: My First Week in Los Angeles

September 17, 2016

flowerslosangelesThe last time I wore these flares I was in Maine, home with my parents and preparing for my big move. Now, I’m 3,000+ miles away across the country starting the next chapter. When I got here I knew a handful of people and really the only thing certain was that I secured a room to live in with a family friend. Besides that I knew what types of jobs I’d like to apply for and had one interview secured. To say that things have changed and that I’m deep in transition would be an understatement.losangelesstyleI’ve been here in Los Angeles for exactly one week and I thought I would share my experience on how I’m adapting to change. I realize that everyone has different experiences and varying levels of comfort with adapting, so I’m just sharing what has helped me personally.

Find your WHY. In times of anxiety and unrest remember why you are in this transition. Did you feel restless in your last environment and feel as though your life was stagnant? No matter your change in setting what about yourself is constant and stays with you no matter where you go? Do some soul searching. Keep a journal of your thoughts, fears, and what you are most excited for. Be sure to remind yourself of why you will benefit from this change. Ultimately it is through change that we grow, so instead of focusing on all that could go wrong refocus to all that can happen to you in this new stage.LA1Stop comparing yourself to everyone around you. By comparing, all you’re doing is forcing yourself to live up to someone else’s ideal and you’ll forever feel unsettled. You have had different life experiences than your friends and coworkers. It’s unfair to  hold yourself to unrealistic standards. Instead focus on your personal accomplishments and goals. You are the only person to know how much you can be stretched and pushed— listen to your gut and be more kind to yourself as you try to advance past your personal

“A person is a fluid process, not a fixed and static entity; a flowing river of change, not a block of solid material; a continually changing constellation of potentialities, not a fixed quantity of traits.” –Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person

losangelesechoparkSet a routine. During a time where its easy to not feel grounded try to create a sort of routine. Even if it’s just waking up a certain time and filling out endless job applications, try to form a sort of flow to your day to create a better sense of rootedness. When I first got to LA I didn’t have a job so I would try to be as “productive” as possible by crafting a morning and evening ritual and during the day I would explore my new area and apply to jobs.

The true way to adapt to change has to come from within first and foremost. I’ve found that if you don’t deal with the negative parts of yourself than you will always stumble across them all over again no matter where you go. Being in your twenties is both beautiful and horrifying all at once. I have a strong feeling though that doing the hard work of finding yourself and discovering what brings purpose to your soul when you’re young will ultimately pay off in the long run. It’s tough, but at the end of the day the most important person you can love is yourself. From there you will be whole enough to love others around you.


Outfit Ingredients

Top-Forever 21

Flare jeans-Free People

Boots- H&M

Choker- Urban Outfitters

Hat- Free People

Bag- Louise VuittonLosAngeles

Lastly, remember that you have the ability to direct your life even through the toughest of changes. Fight for whatever makes your heart burst with happiness. Listen to your intuition. Be vulnerable with people. Remember you are worthy just as you are.

All my love, 


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