The Sleeveless Coat & Comparing Yourself to Others

February 24, 2015

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Let’s Get Real,

for a moment.

It was an astounding high of like 10 degrees when we shot this look, and we were literally running in and out of the house every five minutes to stand in front of the fireplace and thaw our hands. But I put on my “I’m on America’s Next Top Model and Tyra is yelling at me” face and my big girl pants. I say that to say this – sometimes a pictures isn’t worth a thousand words. When we are browsing Facebook, Instagram, or even our favorite blogs it can be easy to start comparing yourself to others and start feeling bad about yourself (we do it too!). When I started blogging I had a real case of “blog envy,” to the point where I couldn’t even bring myself to look at other blogs without feeling depressed. Their outfits were designer, the photography professional, and the websites pristine and I felt like I just couldn’t measure up. But over time, I started to fuel this negative energy into something positive and I challenged myself to become a better blogger by better understanding photography, redesigning the website, and taking time to style outfits for blog shoot – while also realizing that we should be different from everyone else (that was our unique value!) Over time I also realized that blogging is an art and we as bloggers often take creative freedom – so while I’m standing outside in a sleeveless coat know that I’m not crazy and I wouldn’t recommend this to any of you. As bloggers we work hard to create images that are visually appealing, sometimes compromising practicality, so don’t take things at face value… i.e. please throw a coat and some gloves on before you leave the house.

When you flip through a magazine or browse through a blog or an instagram feed full of head of to toe designer looks that leave you both drooling and weeping stop for a moment and realize that you don’t have to copy a look from head to toe or wear designer labels to be stylish. Work with what you have, be creative, and have fun. When I find amazing looks that are way beyond my price range I take on the creative challenge to find affordable options to make the look my own.

I’ll be honest and admit that there have been times when I’ve come across a look I loved but knew wouldn’t work for me because of my lymphedema (aka one  permanently swollen leg) and felt discouraged and frustrated. But as I grow in my journey of self love and acceptance I’m getting better. I’m learning to become aware of and call out these negative thoughts and turn them into something positive – like who needs thigh high boots anyways, ankle boots are super chic…;). So know that your approach to fashion should not be one size fits all – love yourself and the rest will follow – you could wear a paper bag and be radiant with the right amount of poise and confidence (although what would be the fun in that?).

I hope you all know how much Hannah and I look to inspire and empower you through fashion so that it becomes a creative outlet for all of you, the way it is for us, instead of something you feel is inaccessible or discouraging and we always look forward to hearing your feedback on how we can improve.

So the next time you’re scrolling through glamorous Instagram photos know that you are amazing and beautiful in your own right even if you’re not having brunch in Paris and picking out fresh flowers everyday in your Valentinos. You should appreciate beautiful things but appreciate your own beauty first and foremost and don’t measure your happiness or success by Instagram or Facebook standards.


Vest: Megz (Asos Marketplace Boutique),

Obsessed with this Topshop Version, 

Similar Style in Camel, Similar Style in Lime,

Black Chiffon Top: Megz (Asos Marketplace Boutique)

Similar StyleSimilar Style with Leather Trim,

Leather Paneled Leggings: Similar Style

Boots: Steve Madden

Watch: Marc Jacobs



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  • Chelsea

    Woo hoo! You go ladies! You are my favorite girls and this is BY FAR the best most uplifting blog I have ever had the pleasure of reading. LY ❤️

  • nisha

    What a lovely and refreshing post. And you look beautiful patricia

  • Patricia De Carvalho

    Chelsea and Nisha,
    Thank you so much girls! You are so sweet. I am so glad you enjoyed reading this – I really enjoyed writing it, it was very therapeutical for me! lol

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